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Obituary for James W. "Big Jim" Graves Sr.

James W.  "Big Jim"  Graves Sr.
James W. Graves, Sr., 79, a longtime resident of Dover Plains, NY, died on Tuesday, December 12, 2017 at Sharon Health Care in Sharon, CT. Mr. Graves was a tractor trailer driver at the Wassaic Developmental Center for 30 years retiring in 1995. He later worked as a school bus driver for First Student in Dover Plains.

Born on June 10, 1938 in Waddington, NY, he was the son of the late John and Edna (Wing) Graves. Big Jim loved fishing, hunting and camping. He also enjoyed riding his four-wheeler and was a member of the NRA.

Mr. Graves is survived by his companion of 37 years, Marie Spencer of Dover Plains; two sons, James (Tinker) Graves, Jr. and his wife, Pam, of Schroon Lake, NY and Spencer Graves and his wife, Margaret, of Pottersville, NY. He is also survived by his grandchildren, William Graves and his wife, Jessica, Richard Graves and his wife, Sheri, James Graves, Spencer Graves, Jr. and Virginia Graves; five great grandchildren, Kason, Kaelyn, Morgan, James and Emmaline Graves and two brothers, Edmund (Doc) and Robert Graves of Waddington, NY.

Mr. Graves is also survived by his extended family who he loved very much; Dale and Margaret Spencer, William and Lisa McGhee and Josh and Lynnae Webster. He is also survived by grandchildren, Amie-Jo and Brian Dorchik, Lynnae (Redneck) Spencer, Brooke McGhee, Zachary Spencer, Dale Spencer, Jr. and his wife, Laura, Stephanie McGhee and Michael Spencer; great grandchildren, Cory, James and Blake. He is also survived by many nieces and nephews.

In addition to his parents, he was predeceased by a son, Bruce Graves; two brother, Edward and John Graves, Jr. and a sister, Nora Ellis.

Calling hours will he held from 3 to 5:30 p.m. on Saturday, December 16, 2017 at the Hufcut Funeral Home, 3159 Route 22, Dover Plains, NY. Funeral services will follow at 5:30 p.m. at the funeral home. Memorial contributions may be made to the J.H. Ketcham Auxiliary, P.O. Box 598, Dover Plains, NY 12522. For directions or to send the family an online condolence, please visit

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